Remember September – Another Perspective

For those of you following the Remember September Project, I said that I would provide you with different perspectives from my friends across the military.  Last week I brought my best friend Lisa to you, and today I have my friend Krista here for you. I first met Krista in the 3×6 Bee. We were in the same sampler hive in the second quarter. We were both military wives with hubby’s deployed. Like Lisa, Krista’s husband is also in the US Air Force. At the beginning of June I got a message from her asking if I wanted to meet up and do the Western Washington Quilt Shop Hop with her and I said yes! I brought my friend Dawn and Anne with me and she brought her 2 year old son and a friend with her. We became almost instant friends and she has become one of my go to Battle Buddies for this deployment.

You may be curious as to what a “Battle Buddy” is…here is the wikipedia definition: “A Battle Buddy is a partner assigned to a fellow soldier in the United States Armed Forces.  Each Battle Buddy is expected to assist his or her partner both in and out of combat. Most participating soldiers have reported satisfaction and have agreed that the Army should implement the system fully, although there have been cons reported as well. A Battle Buddy is not only intended for company, but also for the reduction of suicide; since each watches his partner’s actions, a Battle Buddy can save their fellow soldier’s life by noticing negative thoughts and feelings and intervening to provide help.[1][2]Now wives aren’t assigned their Battle Buddies, we find them as we go and we support each other as best as we possibly can!

Krista and her husband Chris have 3 adorable boys.

1. You have been a military spouse for over 7 years now, and while this is your husband’s first deployment, it is not your first separation. What has that been like for you and your family?

Well for sure, I thought I was ready for this deployment. Nope. I totally got high-fives in the face with reality. Its the things like fighting (which every married couple does in a month period) that you can’t really fight or express your feelings because it’s all via email. Emotions can be read into things. (not that I would ever do that) 😉

I would say the biggest thing though, is the guilt. The guilt that my boys, Connor (5), Logan (2.5) and Jacob (1), may not remember their daddy. Or that they forget he lives here too. The other side too, is the guilt I have for doing things like going to the pool or visiting family that my hubby can’t do.

Now on the exact other side, I don’t have to plan meals!! Chicken nuggets and French fries are a fabulous meal for my bunch of boys! I have a bunch more time for sewing too! So well it’s tough, there are PLENTY of benefits!

2. What does this project mean to you?  The fact that soldiers are given homemade gifts from people from all over.

This project means a whole bunch to me. This project is helping care for my husband and troops, in a way that we can’t. I’d love to go give him a hug and kiss with presents in my hand. This project is doing just that. Giving them a hug.

My hubby has airmen in his squadron that have never gotten a package while deployed. That just breaks my heart, that there’s some 18-24 year old boy without a present or surprise in his whole deployment.

3. What do you think people need to know about military families and what they go through?

I think that people need to know that we may complain about the military and all it’s glory, but deep down we love it. We love the American flag more than most. We love our husbands/wives.  We love our families. We chose this life and a huge chunk of us wouldn’t change it for the world.

As military spouses we are constantly asked things that can be hard to deal with, how would you answer those questions?

Yes, we ALWAYS miss our husbands/wives when they are gone.
No, we aren’t trying to be rude when we say we don’t know when they will be home. We HONESTLY don’t know.
Yes your spouse may be gone on a trip for a conference. Unless he’s getting shot at and in 110+ temps, it’s not the same. We worry EVERY minute if they will come home safe/soon.

5. What do you think it would mean to your husband to receive a handmade gift from a complete stranger while he is deployed?

I know my husband will be sincerely touched that other people have taken the time to make him something special. He will be eternally grateful for the thought.

Thank you so much Krista for sharing with us today and thank you for the sacrifices that you, your children and your husband are making for our country. I will leave everyone with a picture of Krista’s front door, a reminder that military families always have someone in their hearts.


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11 Responses to Remember September – Another Perspective

  1. Kristy says:

    Thank you Krista & Melissa for taking the time to share with us like this! Krista, you have adorable boys and I so appreciate your real but cheerful perspective. I feel so privileged to get to be a part of sewing this month and hope the gifts are an encouragement to all who receive them!

    Thank you both for all you give that we may never fully understand. Our family prays for you and yours and we are so very proud of you!

    • Kritta22 says:

      Thank you! I really appreciate all your amazing help with this project!

      I’ve never been called quiet! Lol I def am real! Hahaha

      • Kristy says:

        LOL! That’s too funny! We were just thinking about words we would never use to describe ourselves here and “soft-spoken” was mine….I’m a live life LOUD kinda gal too! 🙂

        This project has been a delight to be a part of!

  2. Lisa L. says:

    Thank you for sharing your story with us! I will pray for your family and the safe and speedy return of your husband home to you all! Your boys are adorable. Thank you to your husband and your family for all of the sacrifices you make for the freedoms of everyone.

  3. Debbe says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. Once again I am in tears because I can’t fathom the things military families go through, especially during a deployment. My father served in the U.S. Navy but he was out long before he married my mother so I didn’t experience anything like this. I pray daily for our soldiers and their family’s.

    • Kritta22 says:

      Thank you for your father’s service! I’ve learned that almost everyone has a tie to the military! It’s so fun to learn all the connections!

      Thank you for your prayers.

  4. Jeifner says:

    I almost burst into tears at a very inappropriate place to cry at. It makes me so sad that there are people who have recieved nothing during their whole deployment. I served a mission for my church for a year and a half and I was almost desperate for packages or letters. I was away from family and in a place unknown to me but I was always safe. Really my circumstances were so very not the same and I can only imagine how much more they would appreciate getting something. It makes me want to gather them all up and hug them and make them cookies and a quilt:) But that’s not practical now is it? I’ve made two pillowcases so far (that I haven’t posted yet) and plan on doing more.

    Thanks all for sharing your stories and giving us a forum to help others.

  5. Cassandra says:

    My brother is in the military and has been deployed twice. It’s not the same for the siblings who are left behind, but it sucks. I can feel a small portion of your pain but know that military spouses have it way worse! *hugs*

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